Why I Interviewed Her – and Why You Might Want to Keep Reading 

As a personal matchmaker, I speak daily with accomplished men and women—people who have built fulfilling lives, yet still long for that one missing piece: someone who truly sees and understands them. 

The woman I interviewed is precisely that kind of person. She is elegant, intelligent, independent, warm, and carries a striking presence. She’s not looking for quantity, but for quality. And I believe there are men who are searching for just that—and who have just as much to offer in return. That’s why I chose to give her a voice in this interview. 

Just like a well-written newspaper profile can make you feel like you’ve met someone, I invite you to read this with attention, not haste. Perhaps something will feel familiar. Perhaps something will move you. And perhaps, by the end, you’ll think: this is about her—but it could be about us……. 

She knows her worth. Now she’s looking for a man who recognizes her value and knows his. 

A personal interview with a stylish, intelligent woman from Aerdenhout 

She radiates class, intelligence and passion. There is warmth, curiosity, and openness. This woman has built her life with care—and entirely on her own terms. She is independent, elegant, sincere, and now longs for one man: someone to stand beside her. Not in front. Not behind. Equal. Present. Real.

I spoke with her openly about love, work, connection, and desire. 

What do you love most about the way your life is currently shaped? 

I’ve created a life that feels balanced—where I can fully embrace my independence as well as my roles as a mother, a friend, and a woman. I feel free. Free to make choices that reflect who I am. My days are filled with inspiring people, meaningful conversations, fulfilling work—and also with rest and space. My children, now grown, are my greatest source of joy and inspiration. Of course, life still comes with its worries—but I’m deeply aware of how rich and joyful life has become. 

When do you feel at your strongest—and at your most feminine? 

I feel strong in my work and entrepreneurship, feminine in my essence. Femininity—elegance, softness, flair—is beautiful precisely because it exists alongside strength. The same goes for men: vulnerability is compelling when rooted in strength, and vice versa. I’m deeply feminine, both outwardly and inwardly. I love dressing up—heels, a beautiful dress—but I also feel it from within. I no longer need to prove my strength, not even professionally. Now, I allow myself to fully enjoy my femininity—more than ever before. 

What does ‘real connection’ mean to you in a relationship? 

To me, it means being able to be your full self with someone—without needing to prove, explain, or edit. Feeling both calm and energized in each other’s presence. It means truly wanting to know the other—not just his stories or achievements, but his dreams, habits, fears, soft spots, and desires. Real connection is found in the way you touch, in a glance at the end of the day, in how you show up—especially when things aren’t easy. 

What qualities do you admire in a man? 

I admire men who are strong but not hard. Who can be touched emotionally without being overwhelmed by every emotion. Who can lead, but also know when to reflect, stand still for a moment. A man who takes responsibility for his life but also knows how to enjoy it—that moves me. I’m drawn to depth, attentiveness, someone who truly listens, and a sense of humor that surprises me. Not the loudest voice in the room, but the one who truly feels. And dares to be caring. 

What should a man know about you to truly understand you? 

That my independence is an expression of love. I’ve walked my own path and found peace, freedom, and pride in that. But behind that strength is a deep longing to share. To be with someone, truly. My life is rich—I’m not looking for an ‘extra’ but for a partner. Someone who sees me as a woman, who enjoys my depth and range. Who understands that I don’t want to carry the strength alone in a relationship. I love the dance between masculine and feminine in its best sense. I value what a man brings—perhaps even more so because of my own strength—and I stand beside him, joyfully. 

What does a perfect day or weekend with your partner look like? 

A day where everything is possible and nothing is required. Just enjoying life, letting it unfold. Preferably in a warm climate—it’s no coincidence I’d love to live part of the year in Southern Europe. A walk along the water, stopping for coffee. A conversation that flows without needing direction. Cooking together, a glass of wine, music playing, laughter over something silly. Ending the day on the couch—feet touching, head on his shoulder. The place doesn’t matter. The being together does. 

What makes you proud when you look at the woman you are today? 

That I’ve stayed true to myself. I didn’t choose the easiest path—not for myself, not for my children. I led with values and principles, and passed that on. I’ve grown, learned, made hard choices—but always chose integrity, quality, and growth. You can feel that in me—in my calm, my strength, and my softness. 

How important are humor and lightness to you in a relationship? 

Very. No matter how serious life becomes, love should have lightness too. I’m drawn to a man who can put things in perspective, who has timing and wit, but also playfulness. Humor connects. It shows that you don’t need to control everything and can laugh at yourself. If we can laugh together, even a difficult day becomes lighter. 

What do you want to feel in a relationship that truly works? 

Trust. Ease. Aliveness. A relationship where we enrich each other without overshadowing. Where we give each other space to fly—and take joy in watching one another soar. With true intimacy, in every sense. Where children and friends feel welcome and love to be around. Where we understand that luxury is relative—and are grateful our professional success gives us the freedom to spend time with each other and those we love. Above all: where we can be healthy together. That is what matters most. 

What life lessons do you bring into a new relationship? 

That love isn’t possession—it’s a choice made every day. You can’t mold someone else, but you can invite them to be their truest self. It’s not about being right—it’s about growing together. Safety and excitement can coexist; love lives in that balance. Talking is important, but listening even more so. Love isn’t found in perfection—but in authenticity. I’ve learned to let go of control, to surrender. The biggest lesson? Leave the baggage behind—or only open it if there’s something useful inside. And from that place comes the freedom to love, play, and be romantic. I’m sure of one thing: the best love is still ahead. 

Do you recognize yourself in her words? 

Let’s connect—personally and discreetly.